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Relaxation Arises from Integrity: Cultivating a Spacious Being

The holidays can be confusing. They swing between obligations, unrealistic expectations, and the aspiration to “finally relax.” A great deal of this confusion stems from how we view rest.

We use words such as “relaxation” and “rest” casually, as if they simply mean the absence of busyness. Psychologically, “relaxation” is defined as a state free from tension—a release, an easing, a subtraction. In both cases, “relaxation” is framed negatively: as the removal of something.

An Inquiry into Relaxation

On the first evening of a weeklong retreat, David arrived well after the opening session had begun. He burst through the DOWNLOAD PDF

By |2026-06-03T14:31:32-04:00December 8th, 2025|Blog, Practice|0 Comments

Rethinking Boundaries: An Ontological View from Protective to Presence

Over the last decade, the subject of boundaries in coaching, management, and leadership development has become increasingly necessary, given distractions, fragmented attention, and demands on our time.

However, boundaries are often discussed in a way that feels narrow, emphasizing a cordoning off or separation, not connection or creation. In several of my previous writings, I referred to boundaries (here, here, and here) as essential for creating the space to become whole. In a recent series on compassion, I suggested that boundaries are one DOWNLOAD PDF

By |2026-06-03T14:33:36-04:00July 14th, 2025|Blog, Mental Models|0 Comments

How the “Coming Out” Process Supports a Coaching Mindset

Coming Out of the closet as a gay man is a choice. Yet, making that choice requires considering several consequences. As a coach, the experience of coming out offers many lessons we can use to support people in living their truth.

I contributed a chapter to the book “Coaching Wisdom” – written by gay male coaches. In this chapter, I explore how the “coming out” process supports a coaching mindset to serve clients in becoming whole.

My mentor, Devorah, a black woman living with Parkinson’s disease, shared this thought with me: “We all live in closets and struggle with DOWNLOAD PDF

By |2024-12-27T12:58:28-05:00April 17th, 2023|Blog, Mental Models|2 Comments
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